Has Your Parenting Gone Off Track?

Anger and Frustration Fuel Misbehaviour

Have you ever felt like your parenting skills just weren't working? I certainly have! There have been times when I’ve had to revisit training videos and re-read parenting books, do internet searches, to find clarity, and reset my course.

Sometimes, it's challenging to pinpoint where things go wrong. Are we not “doing it right” as we read or taught in courses or workshops? Or did we miss something vital — an easy thing to do during a momentary lapse in a training session?

That's why I love to keep on talking with clients over the varying stages of parenting. For example, recently, a mum with two teenagers reached out, very dedicated and smart lady, and we had a private coaching session. She was struggling with the next stage in her parenting.

We explored this together and found that she a "miss fire" was using one-liners or what I call pushing the pause button when things heated up. After our conversation, she had an “ah-ha” moment. She realized that using one-liners to create a pause moment, helps both parents and kids.

She understood that she didn’t need to leave the room to calm down but could stay present. This small tweak made a significant difference for her — all it took was one phone call!

Are you on Track?

REFLECTIVE QUESTIONS TO ASK:

Am I using too many words? The more we talk when a child is upset or acting out, the less effective we become.
Did I wait too long to offer choices? Were the kids already resisting me before I remembered to share my control with them?
Am I struggling to keep my emotions in check? Anger and frustration can fuel misbehavior.
How many warnings do I give my children?
Am I using thinking words or fighting words?
Has my relationship with my child deteriorated?

If you spend most of your time correcting and instructing your children, there’s often little room or energy for heart-to-heart connection, which is vital! I hear you: "But things need to get done, how else will we get them moving?"

Let’s face it—things won’t magically change unless we change what we’re doing as parents. You can try to work it out yourself, read blogs, or books, and spend hours searching the internet and all types of possible solutions. But why spend the extra time and energy?

Let's have a quick chat to see how I can help you make a change that will positively impact your family and bring more joy to your parenting.

Time is precious, things don't automatically self-correct unless we stop and do something constructive about it.

Here's Two Steps to Get on Track

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